My girlfriend might be gay!

#RelationshipWednesday My girlfriend might be gay!

Question: This is so awkward. I’m crazy in love with my girlfriend and I’m thinking about a future with her. But lately, I’ve been noticing she only like lesbian porn and I swear my girlfriend likes looking at women more than men! (Not that I want her looking at other men) When we talk about past relationships she always says that her best relationships were always with women. When I ask if these “relationships” are of a sexual nature she says no she’s not a lesbian. She doesn’t like dresses but will wear them for me and when I met her she was (and still is) a tom boy. I don’t want to make the mistake of considering this girl for the long term and it turns out she likes women. How do I know if she really is gay though? Should I say something?

Answer: First things first, if it’s a serious relationship and you have genuine concerns talk with her. It sounds like you may be more curious about her bi-sexual side than she is. Women (most of us) have a natural appreciation for the human body…especially other women. Don’t be an jerk and ask for a threesome either ***insert eye roll here***. Just because she enjoys a little girl on girl action via porn doesn’t mean she wants that. It may just be the visual OR it could be that she wants you to pay attention to the technique so you can learn how to please her. Pay attention, learn and apply. Have a discussion with her. Tell her how much you love her and let her know that these things are bothering you to an extent. Then just ask her questions…instead of guessing…be up front. Ask her if she see a long term future with you. It could be anything or it could be nothing to worry about. It’s been said that communication is the key to all great relationships and yours in no different.

My Friend Throws Shade All The Time

January 24, 2018
My Friend Throws Shade All The Time

Relationship Wednesday with Author Sabrina Childress

Question: I’ve been friends with this girl for over 12 years. We’ve always gotten along and never really had any issues. In the last year she has picked up the habit of throwing shade at me every time she gets a chance. She puts down my clothes, my body, my house, you name it! For no reason. It’s to the point that my own mother is questioning why I’m still friends with her. I can’t think of anything that has drastically changed between us in the past year other than I moved into my first house (if that counts). Why does my friend try to bring me down all the time? What do you think I should do?


Answer: First let me say this, sometimes people grow apart. Sometimes there is not rhyme or reason to it and BAM it just happens! Second, she isn’t your friend and you should probably stop hanging out with her. If she asks you why you stopped talking to her, tell her the truth. Let her know that you are done putting up with her insults and you don’t need that in your life. IF she changes her behavior then by all means, forgive but don’t forget. Nip it in the bud! IF she gets defensive, then cut it short and cut ties. She may be holding you back from greater adventures and new relationships/friendships. Life is too short for that much negativity.


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